My girlfriends grandfather recently passed and i said i was going to try as best i could to make it to the funeral to support her. I live two hrs away and if i go to the funeral i will miss two very important college classes that are covering the material on the midterms that i dont understand that i cannot afford to miss. I want to be there for her but i feel that in doing so i will fail my tests. What should i do? I sent her and her mother flowers and apparently that was not good enough
Funeral question?
Call her and be honest with her. I know this is a very hard time for her, but if you miss out on important material and don%26#039;t do well on your midterms you will be in a hard spot as well. She should understand. Plan some time afterwards to spend alone and help her get throught his tragic ordeal, maybe a weekend away to the beach or something special to do to try and get her mind away from the present state it is going to be in. Best of luck with the gf and midterms.
Reply:Well, communication. If my boyfriend told me what you are telling me now, i would completey understand. If you girlfriend is bratty after telling her that, I think you need a new girlfriend.
Reply:I think you should call her and explain about your midterms. Right now your education is very important, she is important also but she will likely have other family members to lean on. She may not understand but do your best to try make her understand that this is your future that you are working towards. I know that the funeral is important also for your girlfriends sake but like I said she will be with other family members. Take Care , Good Luck and God Bless.
Reply:you said that you will try to be their. you should go she needs you. talk to you teacher and get the notes you will need to study for the test. you can always make up the test. how would you make up not going to a funerial. look in you heart
Reply:explain the situation to your school and see if you can get the information you need to for the classes you would miss. if they cannot help out, then explain to your friend. i would just make sure you take time as soon as you can to be by her when your midterms are over. she may be upset, but with what happened it%26#039;s understandable. good luck with everything and take care.
Reply:Well ask someone if they can make a copy of the notes 4 u. Then u can go to ur girlfriends grandfathers funeral.
nanny
Sunday, April 12, 2009
What is the cost & proceedure for private celebrity funeral at St. Patricks Cathedral in NY, NY?
What is the basic cost and proceedure for the funeral of a celebrity with only about 10 people present, no flowers, [family would bring their private photographer], etc...? Just the basic cost and proceedure for the service. The individual was cremated.
What is the cost %26amp; proceedure for private celebrity funeral at St. Patricks Cathedral in NY, NY?
If the individual was cremated, you can not have a funeral Mass.
You can inquire about a memorial mass, or have a mass dedicated.
Reply:Your best bet is to contact them directly. You can do so by using this e-mail address:
spctrojas@saintpatrickscathedral.org
To learn more about St. Patrick%26#039;s Cathedral, look at their website:
http://www.saintpatrickscathedral.org/
Reply:Contact the church.
Shoes
What is the cost %26amp; proceedure for private celebrity funeral at St. Patricks Cathedral in NY, NY?
If the individual was cremated, you can not have a funeral Mass.
You can inquire about a memorial mass, or have a mass dedicated.
Reply:Your best bet is to contact them directly. You can do so by using this e-mail address:
spctrojas@saintpatrickscathedral.org
To learn more about St. Patrick%26#039;s Cathedral, look at their website:
http://www.saintpatrickscathedral.org/
Reply:Contact the church.
Shoes
What to do at a funeral?
How do you approach a family whose lost a love on at? What do you tell the mother %26amp; siblings? What type of flowers do you take? How long do you stay at the funeral? They are friends of the family.
What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of %26#039; am sorry for your loss%26#039; etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:
I am so sorry.
Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.
I%26#039;m praying for you.
Would it help if we prayed together?
[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.
Would you like a hug?
Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.
What do you need right now?
It%26#039;s ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.
My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don%26#039;t stay longer than you%26#039;re comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.
As for the I%26#039;m sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.
flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased%26#039;s favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.
if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don%26#039;t ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere %26quot;I am so sorry about your loss%26quot; %26quot;you and your family are in my prayers at this time%26quot;
have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement
stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I%26#039;m kinda a dry person.
Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.
That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.
Don%26#039;t say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don%26#039;t say %26#039; if there is anything I can do for you%26#039;
Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don%26#039;t make any promises.
Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.
loan
What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of %26#039; am sorry for your loss%26#039; etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:
I am so sorry.
Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.
I%26#039;m praying for you.
Would it help if we prayed together?
[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.
Would you like a hug?
Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.
What do you need right now?
It%26#039;s ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.
My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don%26#039;t stay longer than you%26#039;re comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.
As for the I%26#039;m sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.
flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased%26#039;s favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.
if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don%26#039;t ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere %26quot;I am so sorry about your loss%26quot; %26quot;you and your family are in my prayers at this time%26quot;
have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement
stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I%26#039;m kinda a dry person.
Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.
That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.
Don%26#039;t say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don%26#039;t say %26#039; if there is anything I can do for you%26#039;
Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don%26#039;t make any promises.
Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.
loan
Funeral help?
Funeral help?
it seems my husband%26#039;s grandmother is not doing well in the hospital. my MIL is flying up to be with her husband as he has been with his mother during this time....he told her to take clothes for a funeral. so we are preparing for the worst.
it seems a bit petty of me but i was wondering, since i have never met my husband%26#039;s grandmother, how could we celebrate her life. is sending flowers and a card of sympathy enough to show how much we care about everyone%26#039;s loss.
we are flying to the dakota%26#039;s from south tx. over the thanksgiving holidays and i have never met my husband of three years family. just my father in law%26#039;s brothers and sisters. i know his immediate family and my mother in law%26#039;s family.
anyway....i want to be respectful and kind and thoughtful and make a good impression.
i%26#039;d send a bouquet of blue irises, that is my favorite flower, and a card from our family. is there anything else i can do? we can%26#039;t just go and join them for a funeral.
Funeral help?
Funerals are for the survivors ... so, examine your relationship with your father %26amp; mother - in -laws ... where is this relationship today ... How is celebrations like Christmas, Easter, and Birthday%26#039;s handled?
Certainly, funerals reflect the families personality. Some have %26quot;Wakes%26quot; where the life is celebrated ... while others have solome gatherings ... psychologically, your in-law%26#039;s are becoming Orphan%26#039;s ... and this is difficulte even at older ages ... yes a 60-80 year old griefs ... I guess since your husband is the ambasidor to link your familiy to his ... talk with your husband ... learn from your husband how his relationship with his GM is ... how his parents bond with GM ... and so on ... then once you%26#039;ve familiarized yourself is when u%26#039;ll understand what to do to show reverence or celibration of this life.
Reply:I would say Flowers and a card shows you are thinking of them in there time of loss.I know I appreciated in when someone I love has passed away.
Reply:rather than flowers
send money that you would have spent on flowers
to a Charity
in Her Memory
such as meals on wheels
or
Hospice
less temporary than flowers
and it helps the family to know that Her memorial gift helped someone in need
Reply:I%26#039;m sure the flowers will be fine. Hey, if I was in your position, I wouldn%26#039;t even be able to go at all because of lack of $$. Taking 3 small ones with you is even harder. They are not going to be there %26quot;judging you%26quot; and how you react at a funeral AT ALL. There will be too much other stuff going on. Just be there and be supportive.
Reply:Your idea is wonderful. Your presence is the best gift and remembered far after flowers have faded. Don%26#039;t worry about the impression you will create. The whole attitude of your email shows you are a caring person and that comes across anyway.
puppy teeth
it seems my husband%26#039;s grandmother is not doing well in the hospital. my MIL is flying up to be with her husband as he has been with his mother during this time....he told her to take clothes for a funeral. so we are preparing for the worst.
it seems a bit petty of me but i was wondering, since i have never met my husband%26#039;s grandmother, how could we celebrate her life. is sending flowers and a card of sympathy enough to show how much we care about everyone%26#039;s loss.
we are flying to the dakota%26#039;s from south tx. over the thanksgiving holidays and i have never met my husband of three years family. just my father in law%26#039;s brothers and sisters. i know his immediate family and my mother in law%26#039;s family.
anyway....i want to be respectful and kind and thoughtful and make a good impression.
i%26#039;d send a bouquet of blue irises, that is my favorite flower, and a card from our family. is there anything else i can do? we can%26#039;t just go and join them for a funeral.
Funeral help?
Funerals are for the survivors ... so, examine your relationship with your father %26amp; mother - in -laws ... where is this relationship today ... How is celebrations like Christmas, Easter, and Birthday%26#039;s handled?
Certainly, funerals reflect the families personality. Some have %26quot;Wakes%26quot; where the life is celebrated ... while others have solome gatherings ... psychologically, your in-law%26#039;s are becoming Orphan%26#039;s ... and this is difficulte even at older ages ... yes a 60-80 year old griefs ... I guess since your husband is the ambasidor to link your familiy to his ... talk with your husband ... learn from your husband how his relationship with his GM is ... how his parents bond with GM ... and so on ... then once you%26#039;ve familiarized yourself is when u%26#039;ll understand what to do to show reverence or celibration of this life.
Reply:I would say Flowers and a card shows you are thinking of them in there time of loss.I know I appreciated in when someone I love has passed away.
Reply:rather than flowers
send money that you would have spent on flowers
to a Charity
in Her Memory
such as meals on wheels
or
Hospice
less temporary than flowers
and it helps the family to know that Her memorial gift helped someone in need
Reply:I%26#039;m sure the flowers will be fine. Hey, if I was in your position, I wouldn%26#039;t even be able to go at all because of lack of $$. Taking 3 small ones with you is even harder. They are not going to be there %26quot;judging you%26quot; and how you react at a funeral AT ALL. There will be too much other stuff going on. Just be there and be supportive.
Reply:Your idea is wonderful. Your presence is the best gift and remembered far after flowers have faded. Don%26#039;t worry about the impression you will create. The whole attitude of your email shows you are a caring person and that comes across anyway.
puppy teeth
Funeral - Am I cold or being reasonable?
My husband’s uncle passed away a few days ago out of state (5 hour drive). Since we were not close, my husband will be attending the wake/funeral without me (our 3 year old and I are still recovering from the flu). My husband is taking the task upon himself to be the bus service to his other siblings (aged 30+) who are not going to pay for the tolls, food, motel or gas not to mention putting the extra 1000 miles on our heap. I’ve spoken to his mother to give my regrets/sympathy and wrote a handwritten letter expressing my condolences to his aunt, bought a mass card and purchased 2 expensive bottles of liquor for my husband to take there for my mother in law and aunt to enjoy/relax. His uncle wanted donations made to charity instead of flowers, now MIL wants us to make a donation and buy flowers too. I said no to the flowers since I feel this is getting out of hand because it will cause more money problems with siblings. We won%26#039;t get the money back. Am I cold or being reasonable?
Funeral - Am I cold or being reasonable?
i think m i l should be pitching in some and dictating less . it is very kind of husband to want to attend funeral however it sounds like $ is tight for you right now and i think that his sibs should either pay upfront or send their condolences via email or phone call . you are a young family and dont need the extra stress that this is going to cause you . and uncle is not going to know the difference anyway. my deepest sympathy to you and your family ... good luck
Reply:I think you should let your husband do what he feels comfortable doing. I feel everyone sure does expect a lot of him, including you. He shouldn%26#039;t be made to feel he has to choose between being home to take you to a christening or take his family to a funeral! His uncle%26#039;s funeral is more important and should be the priority. If you and your child are getting over the flu, you probably shouldn%26#039;t go to the christening anyway---spreading germs. If you%26#039;re completely well you can drive yourself (take a trial drive to make yourself feel more comfortable). Leave the decisions up to your husband and be there for him. If he wants to go out of his way to pick up his siblings--that%26#039;s his decision. It%26#039;s good for family to be together especially when there%26#039;s been a death in the family. Don%26#039;t concentrate on the fact that he wasnt%26#039; really close to his uncle. He should be there for his mother. He can let his mother know that his siblings can make a donation and get flowers since he%26#039;s driving everyone. Good Luck!
Reply:You mean his mom wants him to do all this? Well really a death in his family if his mom wants him to do something then if he feels like it he should. It really depends on what HE really wants to do, he shouldn%26#039;t be torn between what his wife and mother want in this situation because in this situation his mother should probably win. (if I%26#039;m understanding you right)
Kimmi said it real good, she%26#039;s saying what I was thinking just worded it better!
Reply:It is not right to be told what to give as a gift. And there is a difference between a mother telling a grown son what to do and a mother telling a young boy what to do. The grown man is allowed to say %26quot;no%26quot;. But your problem is not with the MIL it is with your husband being used by his family. Only he can stop it.
My brother has this problem, too, and it%26#039;s all his fault, he likes to be the big cheese, and feel like he%26#039;s the most important one in the family, so put upon, but he really loves it.
Reply:no and I would not have gone that far into exspenses. have them all chip in if they want to go thats only fair.
Reply:First off, you don%26#039;t sound like you like your in-laws all that much.
A 5 hour drive isn%26#039;t 1000 miles either! That%26#039;s exageration on your part. So, I%26#039;m sure most of the story is.
No one is making your husband take out his wallet for everyone else!! He can pay for himself can%26#039;t he, instead of thinking he%26#039;s King Kong with a dong and wad?
He can aslo tell his mom, he%26#039;s doing as his uncle wished with the flower thing. It%26#039;s like your blameing his family for %26quot;twisting %26quot; your hubby%26#039;s arm. All he has to do is say........I can%26#039;t flip the bill for all of you!!
I don%26#039;t think your being cold, I think your full of sh*t though on your rantings about your hubbys wallet!! Send him with only enough $$ to pay for gas!!
Reply:You all have made reasonable contrabutions to this funeral and your husband will have to explain this to his mother. You are not being cold, just practical, and you all know what your financial situation is, so no additional explaination is needed to the mother.
Reply:that would work better for us. I%26#039;m not familiar with the area that the baptism is being held so I wanted to go together. He is also going to have to pitch in for a family dinner. I think this is overkill for an uncle that didn%26#039;t mean that much.
First of all do you hear yourself,
HIS UNCLE DIED- and IT WAS HIS MOTHERS BROTHER
( he isn%26#039;t doing this for his uncle , its for his mother who could ALSO die very soon)
AND at no point have you considered his feelings in all of this,
WHO cares about the mass card,
Who cares about the liquor
Your sick with the flu,
your baby is sick so YOUR not going.
You are choosing NOT to go because its inconvienient for you.
HOWEVER he still needs to go, its HIS family and he SHOULD be there to support them,
YOU should send flowers, it far more important than the liquor
And how do they KNOW you donated to a charity, OR NOT
As far as tolls and gas, and MOTEL, he would have to do this regardless
ANd mileage on the whoopty, still would be there
and a Family dinner if VERY VERY COMMON, alot of times people send plates and you eat at home.
Please be more sympathetic, and realize he wants to please his mother, he certainly can%26#039;t please her when she is DEAD.
Just my opinion
M
Reebok
Funeral - Am I cold or being reasonable?
i think m i l should be pitching in some and dictating less . it is very kind of husband to want to attend funeral however it sounds like $ is tight for you right now and i think that his sibs should either pay upfront or send their condolences via email or phone call . you are a young family and dont need the extra stress that this is going to cause you . and uncle is not going to know the difference anyway. my deepest sympathy to you and your family ... good luck
Reply:I think you should let your husband do what he feels comfortable doing. I feel everyone sure does expect a lot of him, including you. He shouldn%26#039;t be made to feel he has to choose between being home to take you to a christening or take his family to a funeral! His uncle%26#039;s funeral is more important and should be the priority. If you and your child are getting over the flu, you probably shouldn%26#039;t go to the christening anyway---spreading germs. If you%26#039;re completely well you can drive yourself (take a trial drive to make yourself feel more comfortable). Leave the decisions up to your husband and be there for him. If he wants to go out of his way to pick up his siblings--that%26#039;s his decision. It%26#039;s good for family to be together especially when there%26#039;s been a death in the family. Don%26#039;t concentrate on the fact that he wasnt%26#039; really close to his uncle. He should be there for his mother. He can let his mother know that his siblings can make a donation and get flowers since he%26#039;s driving everyone. Good Luck!
Reply:You mean his mom wants him to do all this? Well really a death in his family if his mom wants him to do something then if he feels like it he should. It really depends on what HE really wants to do, he shouldn%26#039;t be torn between what his wife and mother want in this situation because in this situation his mother should probably win. (if I%26#039;m understanding you right)
Kimmi said it real good, she%26#039;s saying what I was thinking just worded it better!
Reply:It is not right to be told what to give as a gift. And there is a difference between a mother telling a grown son what to do and a mother telling a young boy what to do. The grown man is allowed to say %26quot;no%26quot;. But your problem is not with the MIL it is with your husband being used by his family. Only he can stop it.
My brother has this problem, too, and it%26#039;s all his fault, he likes to be the big cheese, and feel like he%26#039;s the most important one in the family, so put upon, but he really loves it.
Reply:no and I would not have gone that far into exspenses. have them all chip in if they want to go thats only fair.
Reply:First off, you don%26#039;t sound like you like your in-laws all that much.
A 5 hour drive isn%26#039;t 1000 miles either! That%26#039;s exageration on your part. So, I%26#039;m sure most of the story is.
No one is making your husband take out his wallet for everyone else!! He can pay for himself can%26#039;t he, instead of thinking he%26#039;s King Kong with a dong and wad?
He can aslo tell his mom, he%26#039;s doing as his uncle wished with the flower thing. It%26#039;s like your blameing his family for %26quot;twisting %26quot; your hubby%26#039;s arm. All he has to do is say........I can%26#039;t flip the bill for all of you!!
I don%26#039;t think your being cold, I think your full of sh*t though on your rantings about your hubbys wallet!! Send him with only enough $$ to pay for gas!!
Reply:You all have made reasonable contrabutions to this funeral and your husband will have to explain this to his mother. You are not being cold, just practical, and you all know what your financial situation is, so no additional explaination is needed to the mother.
Reply:that would work better for us. I%26#039;m not familiar with the area that the baptism is being held so I wanted to go together. He is also going to have to pitch in for a family dinner. I think this is overkill for an uncle that didn%26#039;t mean that much.
First of all do you hear yourself,
HIS UNCLE DIED- and IT WAS HIS MOTHERS BROTHER
( he isn%26#039;t doing this for his uncle , its for his mother who could ALSO die very soon)
AND at no point have you considered his feelings in all of this,
WHO cares about the mass card,
Who cares about the liquor
Your sick with the flu,
your baby is sick so YOUR not going.
You are choosing NOT to go because its inconvienient for you.
HOWEVER he still needs to go, its HIS family and he SHOULD be there to support them,
YOU should send flowers, it far more important than the liquor
And how do they KNOW you donated to a charity, OR NOT
As far as tolls and gas, and MOTEL, he would have to do this regardless
ANd mileage on the whoopty, still would be there
and a Family dinner if VERY VERY COMMON, alot of times people send plates and you eat at home.
Please be more sympathetic, and realize he wants to please his mother, he certainly can%26#039;t please her when she is DEAD.
Just my opinion
M
Reebok
Which would be more appropriate for a funeral?
I have to go to a funeral on Saturday. I am not sure whether to give flowers or give the family money. They are struggling with the funeral expenses. So which do you think would be more appropriate?
Which would be more appropriate for a funeral?
I am sure the money would be more appreciated. Your presence at the funeral will mean a lot too.
Reply:If you want more answers, you may want to re-post your question in Ettiquette. If they are struggling with expenses, then give money.
Reply:Money would be more appreciated, and those flowers get very pricey.You can still get a small bouget, you can get a dozen roses for $12.
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Which would be more appropriate for a funeral?
I am sure the money would be more appreciated. Your presence at the funeral will mean a lot too.
Reply:If you want more answers, you may want to re-post your question in Ettiquette. If they are struggling with expenses, then give money.
Reply:Money would be more appreciated, and those flowers get very pricey.You can still get a small bouget, you can get a dozen roses for $12.
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Funeral? What would you do?
I have been dating a girl for 2 months. Her grandmother just died. They will be having the funeral this weekend.
Do I ask to go to the funeral to support her?
Should she ask me if she wants me there?
I have to work, and it won%26#039;t be easy for me to get off. She knows this
I plan on sending flowers to the church, is this enough?
She hasn%26#039;t asked me to go to the funeral....
What would you do?
Funeral? What would you do?
You should try to go to the funeral becaue she needs you. However if you absolutely cannot get off work, just tell ehr how hard you triend and she%26#039;ll understand. Make sure you%26#039;re available to her before and after hte funeral in case she needs to talk or be held. The flowers will be nice, her family will appreciate that.
Reply:Ask her if she wants you to go. If she says yes, then you go! I think you should deliver the flowers personally. That would seem nicer. And if she says, %26quot;No, that%26#039;s okay. I know you have to work.%26quot; Just say okay and show up anyway to surprise her and tell her that you had to be there anyway. But if she REALLY doesn%26#039;t want you to go, like, when you ask and she practically screams %26quot;NO!%26quot; Then I wouldn%26#039;t go, but I%26#039;d suspect something
Reply:ask her if he minds...if she says no say ok whatever is best for you and your family...send her flowers if she says you cant come
Reply:Ask her if she would like for you to try and be there, the flowers is a very nice touch and shows that you care you should definitely do that. Offer your condolences to her mom and dad for their loss, and just be there to support her emotionally if you cant be there for the funeral. That%26#039;s really all you can do.
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Do I ask to go to the funeral to support her?
Should she ask me if she wants me there?
I have to work, and it won%26#039;t be easy for me to get off. She knows this
I plan on sending flowers to the church, is this enough?
She hasn%26#039;t asked me to go to the funeral....
What would you do?
Funeral? What would you do?
You should try to go to the funeral becaue she needs you. However if you absolutely cannot get off work, just tell ehr how hard you triend and she%26#039;ll understand. Make sure you%26#039;re available to her before and after hte funeral in case she needs to talk or be held. The flowers will be nice, her family will appreciate that.
Reply:Ask her if she wants you to go. If she says yes, then you go! I think you should deliver the flowers personally. That would seem nicer. And if she says, %26quot;No, that%26#039;s okay. I know you have to work.%26quot; Just say okay and show up anyway to surprise her and tell her that you had to be there anyway. But if she REALLY doesn%26#039;t want you to go, like, when you ask and she practically screams %26quot;NO!%26quot; Then I wouldn%26#039;t go, but I%26#039;d suspect something
Reply:ask her if he minds...if she says no say ok whatever is best for you and your family...send her flowers if she says you cant come
Reply:Ask her if she would like for you to try and be there, the flowers is a very nice touch and shows that you care you should definitely do that. Offer your condolences to her mom and dad for their loss, and just be there to support her emotionally if you cant be there for the funeral. That%26#039;s really all you can do.
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