Laura Flowers Funeral: 2009

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Funeral question?

My girlfriends grandfather recently passed and i said i was going to try as best i could to make it to the funeral to support her. I live two hrs away and if i go to the funeral i will miss two very important college classes that are covering the material on the midterms that i dont understand that i cannot afford to miss. I want to be there for her but i feel that in doing so i will fail my tests. What should i do? I sent her and her mother flowers and apparently that was not good enough

Funeral question?
Call her and be honest with her. I know this is a very hard time for her, but if you miss out on important material and don%26#039;t do well on your midterms you will be in a hard spot as well. She should understand. Plan some time afterwards to spend alone and help her get throught his tragic ordeal, maybe a weekend away to the beach or something special to do to try and get her mind away from the present state it is going to be in. Best of luck with the gf and midterms.
Reply:Well, communication. If my boyfriend told me what you are telling me now, i would completey understand. If you girlfriend is bratty after telling her that, I think you need a new girlfriend.
Reply:I think you should call her and explain about your midterms. Right now your education is very important, she is important also but she will likely have other family members to lean on. She may not understand but do your best to try make her understand that this is your future that you are working towards. I know that the funeral is important also for your girlfriends sake but like I said she will be with other family members. Take Care , Good Luck and God Bless.
Reply:you said that you will try to be their. you should go she needs you. talk to you teacher and get the notes you will need to study for the test. you can always make up the test. how would you make up not going to a funerial. look in you heart
Reply:explain the situation to your school and see if you can get the information you need to for the classes you would miss. if they cannot help out, then explain to your friend. i would just make sure you take time as soon as you can to be by her when your midterms are over. she may be upset, but with what happened it%26#039;s understandable. good luck with everything and take care.
Reply:Well ask someone if they can make a copy of the notes 4 u. Then u can go to ur girlfriends grandfathers funeral.

nanny

What is the cost & proceedure for private celebrity funeral at St. Patricks Cathedral in NY, NY?

What is the basic cost and proceedure for the funeral of a celebrity with only about 10 people present, no flowers, [family would bring their private photographer], etc...? Just the basic cost and proceedure for the service. The individual was cremated.

What is the cost %26amp; proceedure for private celebrity funeral at St. Patricks Cathedral in NY, NY?
If the individual was cremated, you can not have a funeral Mass.

You can inquire about a memorial mass, or have a mass dedicated.
Reply:Your best bet is to contact them directly. You can do so by using this e-mail address:

spctrojas@saintpatrickscathedral.org

To learn more about St. Patrick%26#039;s Cathedral, look at their website:

http://www.saintpatrickscathedral.org/
Reply:Contact the church.

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What to do at a funeral?

How do you approach a family whose lost a love on at? What do you tell the mother %26amp; siblings? What type of flowers do you take? How long do you stay at the funeral? They are friends of the family.

What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of %26#039; am sorry for your loss%26#039; etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:

I am so sorry.

Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.

I%26#039;m praying for you.

Would it help if we prayed together?

[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.

Would you like a hug?

Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.

What do you need right now?

It%26#039;s ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.

My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don%26#039;t stay longer than you%26#039;re comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.

As for the I%26#039;m sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.

flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased%26#039;s favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.

if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don%26#039;t ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere %26quot;I am so sorry about your loss%26quot; %26quot;you and your family are in my prayers at this time%26quot;

have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement

stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I%26#039;m kinda a dry person.

Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.

That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.

Don%26#039;t say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don%26#039;t say %26#039; if there is anything I can do for you%26#039;

Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don%26#039;t make any promises.

Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.

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Funeral help?

Funeral help?

it seems my husband%26#039;s grandmother is not doing well in the hospital. my MIL is flying up to be with her husband as he has been with his mother during this time....he told her to take clothes for a funeral. so we are preparing for the worst.

it seems a bit petty of me but i was wondering, since i have never met my husband%26#039;s grandmother, how could we celebrate her life. is sending flowers and a card of sympathy enough to show how much we care about everyone%26#039;s loss.

we are flying to the dakota%26#039;s from south tx. over the thanksgiving holidays and i have never met my husband of three years family. just my father in law%26#039;s brothers and sisters. i know his immediate family and my mother in law%26#039;s family.

anyway....i want to be respectful and kind and thoughtful and make a good impression.

i%26#039;d send a bouquet of blue irises, that is my favorite flower, and a card from our family. is there anything else i can do? we can%26#039;t just go and join them for a funeral.

Funeral help?
Funerals are for the survivors ... so, examine your relationship with your father %26amp; mother - in -laws ... where is this relationship today ... How is celebrations like Christmas, Easter, and Birthday%26#039;s handled?

Certainly, funerals reflect the families personality. Some have %26quot;Wakes%26quot; where the life is celebrated ... while others have solome gatherings ... psychologically, your in-law%26#039;s are becoming Orphan%26#039;s ... and this is difficulte even at older ages ... yes a 60-80 year old griefs ... I guess since your husband is the ambasidor to link your familiy to his ... talk with your husband ... learn from your husband how his relationship with his GM is ... how his parents bond with GM ... and so on ... then once you%26#039;ve familiarized yourself is when u%26#039;ll understand what to do to show reverence or celibration of this life.
Reply:I would say Flowers and a card shows you are thinking of them in there time of loss.I know I appreciated in when someone I love has passed away.
Reply:rather than flowers

send money that you would have spent on flowers

to a Charity

in Her Memory

such as meals on wheels

or

Hospice

less temporary than flowers

and it helps the family to know that Her memorial gift helped someone in need
Reply:I%26#039;m sure the flowers will be fine. Hey, if I was in your position, I wouldn%26#039;t even be able to go at all because of lack of $$. Taking 3 small ones with you is even harder. They are not going to be there %26quot;judging you%26quot; and how you react at a funeral AT ALL. There will be too much other stuff going on. Just be there and be supportive.
Reply:Your idea is wonderful. Your presence is the best gift and remembered far after flowers have faded. Don%26#039;t worry about the impression you will create. The whole attitude of your email shows you are a caring person and that comes across anyway.

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Funeral - Am I cold or being reasonable?

My husband’s uncle passed away a few days ago out of state (5 hour drive). Since we were not close, my husband will be attending the wake/funeral without me (our 3 year old and I are still recovering from the flu). My husband is taking the task upon himself to be the bus service to his other siblings (aged 30+) who are not going to pay for the tolls, food, motel or gas not to mention putting the extra 1000 miles on our heap. I’ve spoken to his mother to give my regrets/sympathy and wrote a handwritten letter expressing my condolences to his aunt, bought a mass card and purchased 2 expensive bottles of liquor for my husband to take there for my mother in law and aunt to enjoy/relax. His uncle wanted donations made to charity instead of flowers, now MIL wants us to make a donation and buy flowers too. I said no to the flowers since I feel this is getting out of hand because it will cause more money problems with siblings. We won%26#039;t get the money back. Am I cold or being reasonable?

Funeral - Am I cold or being reasonable?
i think m i l should be pitching in some and dictating less . it is very kind of husband to want to attend funeral however it sounds like $ is tight for you right now and i think that his sibs should either pay upfront or send their condolences via email or phone call . you are a young family and dont need the extra stress that this is going to cause you . and uncle is not going to know the difference anyway. my deepest sympathy to you and your family ... good luck
Reply:I think you should let your husband do what he feels comfortable doing. I feel everyone sure does expect a lot of him, including you. He shouldn%26#039;t be made to feel he has to choose between being home to take you to a christening or take his family to a funeral! His uncle%26#039;s funeral is more important and should be the priority. If you and your child are getting over the flu, you probably shouldn%26#039;t go to the christening anyway---spreading germs. If you%26#039;re completely well you can drive yourself (take a trial drive to make yourself feel more comfortable). Leave the decisions up to your husband and be there for him. If he wants to go out of his way to pick up his siblings--that%26#039;s his decision. It%26#039;s good for family to be together especially when there%26#039;s been a death in the family. Don%26#039;t concentrate on the fact that he wasnt%26#039; really close to his uncle. He should be there for his mother. He can let his mother know that his siblings can make a donation and get flowers since he%26#039;s driving everyone. Good Luck!
Reply:You mean his mom wants him to do all this? Well really a death in his family if his mom wants him to do something then if he feels like it he should. It really depends on what HE really wants to do, he shouldn%26#039;t be torn between what his wife and mother want in this situation because in this situation his mother should probably win. (if I%26#039;m understanding you right)

Kimmi said it real good, she%26#039;s saying what I was thinking just worded it better!
Reply:It is not right to be told what to give as a gift. And there is a difference between a mother telling a grown son what to do and a mother telling a young boy what to do. The grown man is allowed to say %26quot;no%26quot;. But your problem is not with the MIL it is with your husband being used by his family. Only he can stop it.

My brother has this problem, too, and it%26#039;s all his fault, he likes to be the big cheese, and feel like he%26#039;s the most important one in the family, so put upon, but he really loves it.
Reply:no and I would not have gone that far into exspenses. have them all chip in if they want to go thats only fair.
Reply:First off, you don%26#039;t sound like you like your in-laws all that much.

A 5 hour drive isn%26#039;t 1000 miles either! That%26#039;s exageration on your part. So, I%26#039;m sure most of the story is.

No one is making your husband take out his wallet for everyone else!! He can pay for himself can%26#039;t he, instead of thinking he%26#039;s King Kong with a dong and wad?

He can aslo tell his mom, he%26#039;s doing as his uncle wished with the flower thing. It%26#039;s like your blameing his family for %26quot;twisting %26quot; your hubby%26#039;s arm. All he has to do is say........I can%26#039;t flip the bill for all of you!!

I don%26#039;t think your being cold, I think your full of sh*t though on your rantings about your hubbys wallet!! Send him with only enough $$ to pay for gas!!
Reply:You all have made reasonable contrabutions to this funeral and your husband will have to explain this to his mother. You are not being cold, just practical, and you all know what your financial situation is, so no additional explaination is needed to the mother.
Reply:that would work better for us. I%26#039;m not familiar with the area that the baptism is being held so I wanted to go together. He is also going to have to pitch in for a family dinner. I think this is overkill for an uncle that didn%26#039;t mean that much.

First of all do you hear yourself,

HIS UNCLE DIED- and IT WAS HIS MOTHERS BROTHER

( he isn%26#039;t doing this for his uncle , its for his mother who could ALSO die very soon)

AND at no point have you considered his feelings in all of this,

WHO cares about the mass card,

Who cares about the liquor

Your sick with the flu,

your baby is sick so YOUR not going.

You are choosing NOT to go because its inconvienient for you.

HOWEVER he still needs to go, its HIS family and he SHOULD be there to support them,

YOU should send flowers, it far more important than the liquor

And how do they KNOW you donated to a charity, OR NOT

As far as tolls and gas, and MOTEL, he would have to do this regardless

ANd mileage on the whoopty, still would be there

and a Family dinner if VERY VERY COMMON, alot of times people send plates and you eat at home.

Please be more sympathetic, and realize he wants to please his mother, he certainly can%26#039;t please her when she is DEAD.

Just my opinion

M

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Which would be more appropriate for a funeral?

I have to go to a funeral on Saturday. I am not sure whether to give flowers or give the family money. They are struggling with the funeral expenses. So which do you think would be more appropriate?

Which would be more appropriate for a funeral?
I am sure the money would be more appreciated. Your presence at the funeral will mean a lot too.
Reply:If you want more answers, you may want to re-post your question in Ettiquette. If they are struggling with expenses, then give money.
Reply:Money would be more appreciated, and those flowers get very pricey.You can still get a small bouget, you can get a dozen roses for $12.

loan

Funeral? What would you do?

I have been dating a girl for 2 months. Her grandmother just died. They will be having the funeral this weekend.

Do I ask to go to the funeral to support her?

Should she ask me if she wants me there?

I have to work, and it won%26#039;t be easy for me to get off. She knows this

I plan on sending flowers to the church, is this enough?

She hasn%26#039;t asked me to go to the funeral....

What would you do?

Funeral? What would you do?
You should try to go to the funeral becaue she needs you. However if you absolutely cannot get off work, just tell ehr how hard you triend and she%26#039;ll understand. Make sure you%26#039;re available to her before and after hte funeral in case she needs to talk or be held. The flowers will be nice, her family will appreciate that.
Reply:Ask her if she wants you to go. If she says yes, then you go! I think you should deliver the flowers personally. That would seem nicer. And if she says, %26quot;No, that%26#039;s okay. I know you have to work.%26quot; Just say okay and show up anyway to surprise her and tell her that you had to be there anyway. But if she REALLY doesn%26#039;t want you to go, like, when you ask and she practically screams %26quot;NO!%26quot; Then I wouldn%26#039;t go, but I%26#039;d suspect something
Reply:ask her if he minds...if she says no say ok whatever is best for you and your family...send her flowers if she says you cant come
Reply:Ask her if she would like for you to try and be there, the flowers is a very nice touch and shows that you care you should definitely do that. Offer your condolences to her mom and dad for their loss, and just be there to support her emotionally if you cant be there for the funeral. That%26#039;s really all you can do.

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Supernatural event at my mothers funeral?

When I was at my mothers funeral yesterday. We had something bizarre happen. I was walking up towards the table her urn was on. No one else was around the table at the time. I was looking for her urn and about for feet away from the urn when all of a sudden a gust of wind came up and funneled directly into the urn blowing it out off the middle of the table and out of the reef of flowers it was in and onto the ground breaking the urn into many peices. The funeral director said that never should of happened because it was surrounded by a reef of flowers and it has never happened before. The wind didn%26#039;t move anything else on the table, not any of the flowers or anything. The open side of the tent was next to the woods. It wasn%26#039;t very windy outside. Just mainly the one big gust of wind that came out of the woods that knocked the urn to the ground. What meaning would you say the is has?

Supernatural event at my mothers funeral?
It was probably your mother just letting you know she%26#039;s OK.
Reply:You will probably get a lot of answers telling you what other people think the meaning of the event was, but, they are all OTHER PEOPLE%26#039;S interpretation of a very personal event. The only person who has the best answer to this question is yourself. Meditate, pray, think in a quiet place, on it and listen, the messages are out there, the divine (be it god, the gods, Buddha, or any other version that you believe in) is always speaking to you, learn to trust your feelings, and your intuition, and just listen to what the divine has to tell you.

If you don%26#039;t get a satisfactory answer from that then perhaps the scientific explanation is the one that best suits this circumstance and it is best left at that.

The answer is truely up to you, how you feel, and what you believe.
Reply:Very spooky!

Maybe she was annoyed about something and just wanted to let you know....,.

Or maybe she was trying to show you her presence, but tried to hard, and knocked it over by mistake.

I do not know for certain, but i do not think it was meant to harm nor frighten you in anyway.

It may not of even been anything to do with her, it could of been another spirit who is a bit mischevious!

Or it could be non of the above and the first answerers wind theory??

Who knows for certain, all i will tell you is that your mom would not try and scare you, and would not be angry at you, with death comes peace and forgivness. She loves you no matter what, Unconditionally. And she most likly did not mean to scare you.

I am sorry about your moms death, but be assured she is watching over you and your family, and is happy.

All the best.
Reply:Well, let%26#039;s see....did your Mom want to be cremated? What were your thoughts as you approached the urn? Is there any unfinished business or something you needed to say or do for your Mom?
Reply:as a witch im sure your mothr was trying to communicate with you maybe she disliked the flowers or was protecting you from something
Reply:I don%26#039;t know what kind of event this was, but if you want a scientifical explanation, here it is. I suppose that the wind you are talking about is similar to a gust. This happens frequetly to areas that are surrounded by objects because there is;relativlely speaking, a lot of pressure on the outside of what is blocking the urn, so the wind came through at high speeds and knocked over the urn. It is similar to acute pain because it happens to a very small area.
Reply:Not making fun of you, sounds like your mother didnt want to be in the urn. Maybe she didnt want to be enclosed in the urn.
Reply:I have a couple of theories of what happened. Here they are:

1: your mother had some enemies and their spirits are trying to keep her from eternal slumber.

2: your mother was not yet ready to pass on to the afterlife and did not wish her funeral rites be given yet.

3:Your mothers spirit was trying to warn you of something.

I am training to become a supernatural investigator. please email me all the details, and tell me about your mother. email me at radafat@aol.com.
Reply:That%26#039;s just your mum letting you know she is still around you xx
Reply:She wanted to tell you that she is free now.

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Supernatural event at mothers funeral?

When I was at mothers funeral yesterday. We had something bizarre happen. I was walking up towards the table her urn was on. No one else was around the table at the time. I was looking for her urn and about for feet away from the urn when all of a sudden a gust of wind came up and funneled directly into the urn blowing it out off the middle of the table and out of the reef of flowers it was in and onto the ground breaking the urn into many peices. The funeral director said that never should of happened because it was surrounded by a reef of flowers and it has never happened before. The wind didn%26#039;t move anything else on the table, not any of the flowers or anything. The open side of the tent was next to the woods. It wasn%26#039;t very windy outside. Just mainly the one big gust of wind that came out of the woods that knocked the urn to the ground. Would you call this a supernatural event? What meaning would you give it?

Supernatural event at mothers funeral?
It was your mother%26#039;s way of showing you that she is still around. What better way then using her own ashes? Maybe she was saying goodbye as she was getting ready to leave the earthly plane for the spiritual one. Many people believe that the soul lingers on the earthly plane for 3 days after the death of the physical body. If this event happened within tha t time frame, then it is possible that she was indeed saying goodbye.
Reply:In case you haven%26#039;t noticed, this is the Philosophy category. This question belongs in the I Believe That Somehow If A Clay Pot Contains Someone%26#039;s Ashes Then The Laws Of Physics Might Apply Differently To It Despite The Fact That All Scientific Evidence And All Principles Of Logic Say That%26#039;s Totally Ridiculous And Absurd category. Unfortunately, there is no such category, so instead I%26#039;ll have to recommend something like Religion %26amp; Spirituality or Mythology %26amp; Folklore (both found as subcategories of the Society %26amp; Culture category).
Reply:Stuff happens. It%26#039;s entirely possible an aberration occurred at your mother%26#039;s funeral service. After the death of my grandmother on my mother%26#039;s side of the family, I was awakened in the middle of the night by her image, healthy and fully restored (she died a protracted death of cancer). She spoke to me and I spoke back, with my wife as a witness to the event, and no one can convince me that it didn%26#039;t happen. My wife says I was fully awake, I have Christian values, yet I know what I saw. Unexplainable events occur all the time to those who are open to believing they can happened. I have no doubt that your story is true. Accept it as an unexplainable event. Perhaps at sometime in your future, an explanation will come to you. Who knows?
Reply:sorry about your mother :(

that%26#039;s freaky. Maybe it%26#039;s supernatural and if it was your mother, what would she be trying to tell you by knocking her urn over and breaking it?
Reply:Honestly that is pretty bizarre, but I wouldn%26#039;t look too much into it. I%26#039;ve had something similar happen to me at a friends memorial. I just think with all of the emotions and overwhelming thoughts we are LOOKING for something like that to happen to give us some sort of sign that they are still around,even if it is in a spiritual form. Would you have felt the same if that happened under different circumstances?
Reply:I honestly dont want to knock down your belief of it being a supernatural encounter, but to even begin to believe it is REALLY a supernatural encounter you have to take into account a ton of variables that could have knocked down an urn besides just wind. However I will say the subconscious works in very extreme, and unbelievable ways.

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Supernatural event at mothers funeral?

Alzheimer's death in family should husband go to funeral?

My husbands Uncle died yesterday after a long battle w/ Alzheimer%26#039;s and sudden death of wife 9 months ago.

We do not have the money and there is bad blood between me and mother in law. He (husband) saw him (Uncle) last October but did not recognize him.

The funeral is Wed %26amp; we are in Houston.

I think flowers and a phone call to cousins is fine but I feel guilty that maybe we should go into debt ($400+ round trip) so he an make an appearance.

What would you do?

Alzheimer%26#039;s death in family should husband go to funeral?
I would think the flowers and a phone call would be fine. He can mourn on his own in his own way. He doesn%26#039;t have to be at the funeral, especially if it will cause problems with the family. It%26#039;s already hard enough for everyone. When you have the means, you can pay your respects.
Reply:No
Reply:If you do not have the money and would have to go in debt then family would have to understand that you just can%26#039;t do it. If your husbands mother would like for him to attend the funeral then she could offer the $400.00 round trip to get him there and back. Don%26#039;t feel guilty for something you can%26#039;t help.....sending a card and a flower arrangement would be very appropriate under the circumstances. People can only do what they can do and I am sure that the cousins would understand this when your husband is honest with them. I would not let this worry you if other%26#039;s have a problem with it let it be their problem because you guy%26#039;s can%26#039;t help it. I am sorry to hear about your loss take care.
Reply:With that much of a financial burden, it%26#039;s your husband%26#039;s call. Although, it%26#039;s showing respect to his uncle... Not his mother. Let the decision be your husband%26#039;s, afterall, it IS his family.

Personally, I think a call and flowers are fine. I%26#039;m not that close to my family though.
Reply:You don%26#039;t need to go to the funeral. I always wonder why people bother to do that. If you were close with the person who died, it would have been better to spend the money on a plane ticket then to see them when they were alive. To go see them after they die, it usually is for the family left behind. I%26#039;m sure there are other people who will be there for the loved ones of the uncle. I don%26#039;t think anyone should have to feel obligated to spend money and drive long distances for a funeral. It%26#039;s just not necessary.
Reply:I think phone calls and flowers are enough.
Reply:That depends entirely on how close your husband was to his uncle, and if your husband wants to attend the funeral.

If he wants to go, then put it on a credit card. You don%26#039;t necessarily have to go too since there is bad blood.
Reply:I think this is your husband%26#039;s call. My wife has not accompanied me to every funeral of aunts, uncles, and cousins - and vice versa - because of financial issues. And it has not been an issue for either of us. We have both gone when it is a grandparent.

I live in Iowa and heaven forbid when my uncles who live in Arizona and Virginia pass away - I would probably only attend the funeral if it was during the summer (I am a teacher) and if finances worked. I may take some heat from it from my parents, but I am long past where that matters that much to me.

I think it is your husband%26#039;s call 100% if he wants to go and please respect his decision. If he expects you to go than I think you are reasonable in declining for the financial reasons - not the issues with his mother.

I am sorry for the loss in your family.
Reply:Bad blood with the mother-in-law shouldn%26#039;t influence your decision. Things like that should be put aside in a time of grieving. Was your husband very close to his uncle? How does he feel? Does he just want to %26quot;make an appearance%26quot; or grieve with his family? If I were in this situation, I think I would let my husband make the decision because it%26#039;s his relation and I would want him to do what he feels is right. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices (money, in your case) to do what%26#039;s right. And then other times maybe you just can%26#039;t due to your situation. Ask your husband. See how he feels.

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How do you make a doctor's funeral funny?

Many doctors were gathered together for the heart surgeon%26#039;s funeral. It was very tastefully done according to the hospital%26#039;s wishes.

After the initial service the funeral directors brought out a large flower arrangement that was shaped like a giant heart. His casket was then passed through the heart into the waiting hearse to symbolize his life%26#039;s work.

A man in the back started chuckling. All the guests stared at the chuckling man in disbelief. %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry he said, I mean no disrespect to the departed, but I am a gynecologist %26amp; I was just picturing what my funeral will look like%26quot;

That%26#039;s when the proctologist fainted.

Thanks for the star if you laughed at this one.

How do you make a doctor%26#039;s funeral funny?
LoL i get it. that%26#039;s messed up but funny!
Reply:hahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha...go... a nice 1...i cnt stop laughin...hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha..

lol
Reply:haha funny

to answer ur question

a proctologist is a specialist doctor for the anus and rectum

gross!
Reply:Ahh...Huh..huh..huh.huh,you said Proctologist.Huh...huh
Reply:clever
Reply:Lol. I chuckled too. :D
Reply:that was HILARIOUS!!!!
Reply:haha
Reply:whats a proctologist?

Oh i get it :D
Reply:Hahaha

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Finding a funeral home in Panama?

I need to find the names and telephone numbers of any funeral homes in Chorrera, Panama. There is a funeral on Monday in that city that I want to send flowers to, but I have no idea at what location the funeral is taking place. Any ideas as to how I can figure this out?

Finding a funeral home in Panama?
FUNERARIA CON AMOR

Calle del Pto Barrio Balboa

Panamá - Panamá, La Chorrera

Teléfonos : (507) 2543756

FUNERARIA MARÍA DE LAS MERCEDES

Callle del Puerto

Panamá - Panamá, La Chorrera

Teléfonos : (507) 2532747

FUNERARIA ALFA Y OMEGA

Calle de La Cultura Barrio Colón

Panamá - Panamá, La Chorrera

Teléfonos : (507) 2534895

FUNERARIA AUXILIADORA CRISTO REY DE PANAMÁ OESTE

Calle del Puerto

Panamá - Panamá, La Chorrera

Teléfonos: (507) 253-6051
Reply:I googled this one and I seriously do hope that it is something that you are looking for::

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Reply:open this link and you will find the answer to your question:

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Is wine appropriate to give at a funeral?

My friend has died recently, and he%26#039;s gonna have a funeral, I was thinking everyone%26#039;s gonna give his family flowers as gifts, would red wine be appropriate though? If not, what else could I give them besides flowers?

Is wine appropriate to give at a funeral?
I%26#039;m a funeral director and personally, I think in this situation, wine is not really appropriate. What did your friend die from? If it was Cancer, how about a donation in his memory to the Cancer Society......or if it was a Heart Attack, a donation to Heart and Stroke in his memory.....or whatever other charity is relevant to his cause of death. If your friend is Catholic and there%26#039;s going to be a funeral mass, Mass Cards are always appreciated by catholic families. You could give the family a small tree or rose bush to plant in their garden at home in his memory.

Something else that families of the deceased always appreciate is gifts of prepared food, i.e. a big pan of lasagne, cheese or cold meat tray with crackers and rolls. They are upset and overwhelmed with everything that%26#039;s happened and being able to just warm up a casserole or have something prepared so they don%26#039;t have to cook is always really appreciated.

Another nice gesture is to write them a little note at Christmas time.....just to tell them you%26#039;re thinking of them during this first christmas season without him and you hope that all the happy memories they made with him in years past will be of some comfort to them.

There%26#039;s heaps of other things.......but hopefully this will steer your mind away from the more traditional gifts of flowers.

Edit: to Just a Gorilla! I don%26#039;t know where on earth you got your information from but you are so so wrong!! All flowers have gift cards on them!! How else is the family supposed to know who they%26#039;re from to send them an acknowledgement!.

If the family isn%26#039;t catholic and you give them a bottle of wine and tell them it%26#039;s the blood of Jesus, they%26#039;re going to think you%26#039;ve got a loose screw!
Reply:No. Gifts other than flowers are NOT bestowed upon the family...And the flowers are usually laid at the grave site rather than handing them over to the bereaved as a gift. Also, better check your funeral ettiquette, cause I don%26#039;t think you%26#039;re supposed to put a tag with the flowers saying %26quot; to (the deceased) , from....%26quot; People often send cards via mail. I think the best gift a person can provide is to show up at the funeral and tell the folks sincerly how sorry you are and all that jazz.......and, if you must give them the wine, just tell them it%26#039;s the blood of Jesus....be sure it%26#039;s red.
Reply:Totally! I never give flowers to the family or friends of the deceased. I often give a bottle of wine or a gift card to restaurant. That gives the family time to spend together and no worries about dinner that night. I think flowers are just a bad remembrance since they also die.
Reply:When my friend died, I bought a little card that could be put inside his casket. I knew his family was recieving a lot of flowers from everyone so I didn%26#039;t wanna do that. I don%26#039;t know if wine would be appropriate...
Reply:Well if he liked it yeah.but if he didnt drink then probly know.and if no the maybe apple sidder.

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Which white flower represents death used at a funeral?

carnations

Which white flower represents death used at a funeral?
Any of them, but my dad (who was the son of a funeral director) cant stand white lillies and roses for that reason - he always associates them with funerals.
Reply:carnations and white roses
Reply:In some cultures it%26#039;s the Calla lily. Zantedeschia aethiopica.

The two main varieties being traditionally the Green Goddess, and the Hercules.

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Wake or funeral? Or both?

My sister%26#039;s brother in law committed suicide. We are not a close family. We only get together on father%26#039;s day or when someone dies or in hospital.(this is since my mother%26#039;s passing 10 yrs ago). She has been married to her highschool sweetheart for 25 yrs, so there are times I have met her brother in law,weddings,ect.My question is should I go to the wake or funeral or both? I%26#039;m uncomfortable already about the way he died , not very good at knowing what to say at funerals. I can%26#039;t avoid both. Was planning on sending flowers and cards. But I feel I should go to one or the other, or both. I%26#039;m not a cold hearted person it%26#039;s just that we really don%26#039;t keep in touch anymore. Seems like it%26#039;s always only if it%26#039;s a thing for my dad or we don%26#039;t even talk. Would like some input. I would like to let her know I care but I%26#039;m uncomfortable at social gatherings,especially when It%26#039;s such a sad occasion. Please help.

Wake or funeral? Or both?
I can understand you feeling uncomfortable in situations like these but i am sure your sister would really appreciate you there for her.I know you didn%26#039;t have much to do with this person but its OK for anyone to go to a funeral to pay their respects.If you do decide to go along, don%26#039;t feel as though you have to go to both, wake and funeral.Your presence will be acknowledged and that doesn%26#039;t have to be at both.Do what you think is right and that you are happy with.
Reply:layla - your sister%26#039;s brother-in-law is sort of a relative (was he your sister%26#039;s husband%26#039;s brother?), and you knew him, too. You can probably skip the wake but probably should go to the funeral. Also, send a condolence card to the family and flowers.
Reply:Whatever makes you as comfortable as possible, as long as you pay your respects.
Reply:You should go to both so you can comfort your sister even though your not a close family but they need you right now in this time of need
Reply:i know how u feel.... i%26#039;m not good with funerals either. i would probably send flowers and send HER a card. i would explain to her how i feel, and let her know how that i am truly sorry for her lost. and i would make a brief appearance at the wait.

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Need Help. Goin to a funeral tommorow?

I need help guys. Im going to a funeral tommorow and I would like to buy some flowers to show my condolences to the family. What color flower should I get? your help is greatly appreciated

Need Help. Goin to a funeral tommorow?
Ask the florist for a reccomendation, they will have the best suggestions since they know the meaning attached to different flower types and colors.
Reply:White Lilies are very appropriate for a funeral.
Reply:The florist should be able to help you send something appropriate. Is it for an older person and a celebration of their long life or a tragic end of a young life? Either way, if the person knows (knew) Jesus as their Savior the stuff they are involved in now will make any flower seen unimpressive. But it is the thought that counts.
Reply:I usually go for white at a funeral for some reason.

I don%26#039;t know the actualy etiquette rule on this per say but....white always seems nice for a funeral
Reply:Get any color YOU feel is appropriate for the occasion. You are able to exercise good judgment, are you not. If not, go to the etiquette forum and ask them.
Reply:Go to the florilist and ask them for there advice they will no best. Remmber not to wear anything white, and im sorry about your friend passing away.
Reply:I know different countries/cultures have different customs. Where I live, in the southeastern US, it%26#039;s the thoughtfulness that counts %26amp; colors don%26#039;t matter. When in doubt, ask the florist.
Reply:Yellow or purple.
Reply:Any color but red. Wearing red to a funeral is like spitting on the grave. I would assume the same would go for flowers.
Reply:Go to a florist and ask for their suggestion.

That suggestion will be based on the age and gender of the person who died.

If a 15 year boy dies, you don%26#039;t want to send a bunch of pink carnations. You%26#039;d probably want to send flower that are the color blue or something like that.

In any event, have the flowers delievered to the funeral home, don%26#039;t take them there yourself.

That way the funeral home will put them on display and the family will see them without having to deal with the delivery.

That is the proper way to do it, no matter type of flowers or arrangement you choose.

Consider also sending a plant, vs. cut flowers.

Cut flowers will fade in a couple of days, but a plant the family can take home and enjoy for months to come.

If not years.

Obviously you%26#039;d want to pick a plant whose flowers are in bloom now.

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Reply:Pretty much any color is acceptable, although the most common is white. But you%26#039;ll see coffins draped in red roses, pink, yellow, whatever the person would have wanted. Mostly I would say, whatever you pick, pick only one kind of flower, not a multi-floral bouquet. But if you go to a florist, they will have several different things they can show you that are appropriate.
Reply:pastel colors are good but not those icky grocery store bunches-go to a florist, tell them what it%26#039;s for and it%26#039;s nice to have it delivered too. I%26#039;ve never seen anyone walk into a funeral with flowers.
Reply:lillies are funeral flowers, orchids also good as they represent sorrow and are pretty. So purple/white.
Reply:I tend to go with something white...but if I know the person well enough to know a favorite color...I try to get that as part of the arrangement.
Reply:You can get white or pink roses. The best would be just to go to a florist and they can make an arrangement for you.
Reply:Well considering certain colors of flowers have certain meanings, and I don%26#039;t know if this person is male or female and not sure what this person meant to you, I would say go to a flower shop or on the computer and look at the different varieties, my dad%26#039;s funeral had a lot of white and red.
Reply:Ask the florist.
Reply:White Roses are Pretty Wicked Awesome.
Reply:Carnations are the traditional funeral flower
Reply:Black Roses!

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What is a good sentiment to put on a funeral card?

My Grandpa%26#039;s funeral is saturday and i%26#039;m ordering some flowers. I%26#039;m at a loss of what to put on the card. What would be good to say?

What is a good sentiment to put on a funeral card?
You are always in my heart.
Reply:%26quot;Lost but not forgotten%26quot;
Reply:You will always be loved and missed very much!!
Reply:If grandpa had a special nick name for you, use it.

%26quot;You will be so missed%26quot;

%26quot;We%26#039;ll take care of grandma for you%26quot;

%26quot;Say hi to Uncle Frank up there in heaven%26quot;

%26quot;So very sorry for your loss%26quot;

%26quot;You are all loved%26quot;

%26quot;Love, ...%26quot;

Before spending money on flowers, make sure there is food a plenty for the family, bring cookies or cheese and crackers or some snack to the funeral home for those staying the long day. Bring entertainment for any kids (books, crayons). Be there behind the scenes to help with errands...
Reply:Grandma,

You are in my prayers and I love you.
Reply:In loving memory our thoughts and prayers go out to the family
Reply:Thanks for being a great Grandpa. I will always love you.

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Goin to a funeral tommorow?

I need help guys. Im going to a funeral tommorow and I would like to buy some flowers to show my condolences to the family. What color flowers should I get? your help is greatly appreciated

Goin to a funeral tommorow?
Ask the florist, they can guide you.
Reply:If you go to a reputable florist, they will be able to help you.
Reply:Peace lilies are beautiful and you can keep the flowers to remember the person afterwards. Each time that it blooms, you remember the person that passed.

I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:For a female - pink and white carnations are very with some lilac mixes.

For a man i would suggest white flowers with some blues and greens mixed in.

This is what ive seen at funerals anyway.
Reply:white flowers decorated by black things ,

that seems very beautiful!
Reply:If you knew the person who is deceased, perhaps they had a favorite flower? As stated numerous times above, asking the professionals at a florists shop is a great way to choose an appropriate arrangement. Give them a price range and a brief explaination of how you knew the deceased and they can point you in the right direction.

Traditionally, orchids or calalilys are displayed.
Reply:Yellow mums are quite common.
Reply:Just call the funeral home and ask them to pick out a funeral arrangement. Tell them your relationship to the deceased and they will help you with the size of the arrangement.
Reply:You need to go to the Flower shop and they will help you pick out a flower arrangement (by size) that suits how close you were to the deceased.
Reply:****Ive seen all kinds of colors at every funeral ive been to****

***Just choose a nice arrangement***

**I dont think colors really matter too much**

*Unless maybe you knoe the deceased favorite color or flower, then definately go for those*
Reply:Color won%26#039;t matter as much as type. Most people get mums and carnations. Your florist will have a catalog of appropriate arrangements for you to choose from. I%26#039;m going to link you to some floral sites so you can look and see if there is a special arrangement you might prefer. Floral arrangements can be very expensive. When we have a relative or friend of the family who passes away, we usually contribute equally to purchase a nicer arrangement. You might also want to call the funeral home. Sometimes family of the deceased request donations be made to charity in their loved ones name instead of flowers.
Reply:You at the funeral is fine. Flowers are usually sent if you can%26#039;t attend the funeral.
Reply:My thought on this one is this: Buy a living plant, or bush or tree of some sort. This is something that the family can bring home and plant in honor of the lost one. When you buy cut flowers, they only shrivel up and die. Just a thought.
Reply:I like to go with the season. I would choose fall colors myself
Reply:Usually florests know what kind to buy. Just like for home different flowers for different seasons. Ask your local florest, she will know exactly what to get.
Reply:I think for a funeral WHITE ones will the the ones to get....calla lily flowers....those are the best...

sorry to hear about the loss
Reply:Something pretty, but neither morbid nor flamboyant. Don%26#039;t buy them as if you were going to for a girl, simply get something classy. Just ask the florist at the store and they%26#039;ll know exactly what you should get.
Reply:Ask the florist to help you, they have pictures (scrapbooks) to help. It%26#039;s not that hard.
Reply:Find out what their favorite color was or favorite flower and find an arrangement either with that color ar that flower in it.

If you are not comfortable asking those questions, buy an arrangement - for a man with mainly dark colors - like orange, dark blue, red, bright yellow , and so on and so forth. And for a woman with mainly pastel colors like pink, light blue, white, lilac, and so on and so forth.

If you aren%26#039;t sure than a green plant in a nice dish garden or a nice garden basket is always nice.

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Has anybody ever seen an asian funeral taking place? no racist comments please..?

I AM ASKING THIS AS I REALLY WONDER AS I HAVE NEVER SEEN AN ASIAN FUNERAL, MY CULTURE HAS THE HURST AND CARS FOLLOWING, FLOWERS ETC, CHURCH SERVICE THEN BURIAL AT GRAVESIDE OR CREMATION, WHAT HAPPENS AT ASIAN FUNERALS, IS THERE A CERTAIN ASIAN CEMETARY OR DO THEY HAVE THIER OWN LIKE JEWISH ONES FOR EXAMPLE? MY DAD WAS CREMATED IN SPAIN AND HE HAS TO BE CREMATED WITHIN 24HRS, THATS A SPANISH THING SO ARE ASIAN CREMATED OR BURIED? PLEASE DO NOT POST ANY RACIST COMMENTS AS THIER REALLY IS NO NEED FOR NASTINESS, ITS JUST SOMETHING I WANT TO KNOW...

Has anybody ever seen an asian funeral taking place? no racist comments please..?
As soon as a Muslim dies, he/she is buried straight away. So the body is washed straight away, wrapped in a shroud and a burial takes place. Just before the burial the body is taken in a coffin, in a Hurst to the home of the family. This is where the women get a Chance to see the body before the body is taken to the mosque. Prayers are read at this time also.

The body is then taken to the mosque, just as you would in your funerals and then prayers are said and the body is buried. It is forbidden in Islam to be cremated. This is quite a vague description but i hope it helps you get a better picture. Its much the same as your funerals, only we get buried straight away.
Reply:to be perfectly honest i am in the UK,and i have never heard or seen one taking place,i think your right about they have to be buried in so long,something to do with mecca i believe and i think they also have to face a certain way,that%26#039;s what i have always believed anyway,but to the point of the asian funerals i could not say for sure as i have never wittnessed one.
Reply:y the hell r u typin in all caps

first of all
Reply:Went to the funeral of a Hindu colleague a few years ago. He was cremated, which I think is their norm. The difference that we noticed compared to English culture was that the family followed the coffin once it went behind the curtain- apparently they have to see it actually go into the furnace. The other thing was that the traditional mourning colour is white, although many people that they knew just came in their everyday clothes which seemed to be quite acceptable.
Reply:If you mean Asian Indian, then yes. In my culture, people choose cremation over %26quot;normal%26quot; burial. In the West, loved ones are taken to a crematorium. In some places in India, people burn the dead on a funeral pyre.

Edit: No, I am not Muslim. We don%26#039;t keep the body in a mosque. I am unaware of where the body is kept, but I am quite sure it is in the morgue until the ritual washing ceremony. The ashes are generally scattered in the water- rivers (especially the Sutlej river or the Ganges river).

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What kind of flowers should i send?

my best friend%26#039;s dad died last night and i want to send their family some flowers and a card. what kind of flowers should i send to them? its not for the funeral its just for kind of a %26quot;Still thinking of you%26quot; type of flowers. trying to kind of brighten the room or something like that. what is the best kind of flowers to send for that?

What kind of flowers should i send?
I would suggest a Peace Lily plant. I had only been on my current job 3 weeks when my father passed away. The whole office sent me that beautiful plant. Much nicer than cut flowers, those just die within a couple days.

I%26#039;m still with that office, it is going on 7 yrs come June. That plant reminds me of how wonderful they all are.
Reply:A life plant or small shrub that can be planted outside later. I sent an azalia plant to a friend when his mom died. His dad planted it outside about a week after the funeral. My dads family likes to do a tree for the yard, a memory tree. Whatever the family likes that is good for the area you live in.
Reply:i%26#039;m terribly sorry...that sucks!!!!

there really isn%26#039;t a specific answer to that. it is really the opinion of the ones u give them to. ask them or pick ones that remind u/them about better times.

if u really have no idea then purchase peace lilies. they%26#039;re really comforting.

Godspeed to u all
Reply:Blue rose.

It means, rare and unique. You maybe want your friend that he/she is unique in so many ways and for that will always be remembered. Moreover roses signify love and lot more love.
Reply:See source.

You will find some lovely arrangements and/or live plants delivered from local florists.
Reply:A florist can make up a small mixed arrangement of flowers for them.

If you go to the florist and tell them what you want to do then they should be able to help you pick out something.
Reply:I would try white roses. Also though another really unique thing you could do is if you have some pretty flowers at your house go cut some and dry them out. Then when there dried out tie them all together with a pretty ribbon and send those with a nice kind card.
Reply:call your local florist and ask the designer what THEY would send if they needed to send flowers out. They can best tell you which flowers are in stock that are the nicest and I can tell you from personal experience you will get the nicest arrangements when you let the designers do what they are best at...choosing flowers and combinations and creating arrangements that are as nice as possible :) If you have preferences for colors or containers, you can certainly request that, such as baskets or vases, bright colors or pastels. Tulips are great this time of year, as are lilies, daisies, roses, carnations, alstromeria, stock, snapdragons and waxflower. Good luck.
Reply:Alstroemeria are long lasting cut flowers, come in many colors and the cost is usually on the low end. The other name for these flowers is Pervuian lillies. Here in CA, they can be found at most markets, flower stands and florist. A good friend is born for a time of distress. Glad your there!!!
Reply:Tell the flower owner the situation, and they will be able to help you perfectly? Anything is a nice gesture!

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Reply:you should send something that the family likes, like anything that will seem comforting- you%26#039;re a good friend in doing so ....I%26#039;m really sorry to hear that...best wishes to you all.

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Will it be too much like a funeral?

I want to put up pictures of our parents and our grandparents from their wedding day. But a couple of grandparents have passed away and their spouses have remarried, I was going to include those too. I was going to dress the table up all pretty with nice frames and candles and flowers. My question is will it look like a funeral memorial?

Will it be too much like a funeral?
Funeral-ish, or not it is going to be darned awkward. While I am totally disgusted at sentiments like %26quot;It%26#039;s YOUR wedding and it%26#039;s all about YOU and you should have everything YOUR way%26quot;, I think this would be going too far the other direction. The event should be about YOUR marriage, the marriage that is taking place then and there -- not about other people or other marriages.
Reply:I don%26#039;t think it will look like a funeral at all.

We are doing something similar in our wedding.

We are having a frame with all the grandparents (that have passed away) pictures in it and another frame with a nice memorial poem and a candle in a glass hurricane container engraved with in loving memory and an artificial rose.
Reply:I went to a family friends wedding and they had done this for their wedding. The photos were displayed on a table during the cocktail hour and there was a card under each photo explaining who was pictured. I thought it was such a cute idea. It was so interesting to see our friend%26#039;s parents when they got married. So I think it is a great idea and no at all morbid!!

Have fun!!
Reply:You should put out in the lobby arear of the wedding site, there is nothing wrong with including passed loved ones. I went to wedding and a chair was draped with fabric and a single rose was placed in the chair alond with a picture to memoralize the grooms grandmother.
Reply:I think its taking the attention from you..although its nice to rember your family..and very sweet of you..I think it may be too much going on....
Reply:Lots of people do that so it would be very appropriate.
Reply:no it will be nice...

i think you should do, and hopefully your marriage will last forever!!
Reply:NICE!!! infact i just called my mom and told her about your idea were now doing something similar THANKS!!
Reply:yes its ok

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Organise youre own funeral?

what kind of funeral do you want?

do you want it with disco lights?

what kind of flowers?

do you want a color coding for your funeral? ex. only people in red can go to my funeral.

where?

what kind of music should be played rnb, pop, rock, j-pop?

Organise youre own funeral?
Death is a passing. Considering death as a graduation from this life, for me it will be a celebration. Just one or two nights wake. I prefer my coffin sealed. A photo gallery will be set up showcasing my photos from birth to the last pics taken of me. A video wall will also be showing more photos; the tv shows, stageplays, videos and movies I%26#039;d been in; and, just before cremation, my pre-recorded valedictory address and last will and testament.

There will be an open bar and a buffet will be laid out, too. Piped in music featuring my favorite songs will played. On the way to Mt. Pulag, Enya and Gregorian Masters of Chant selections and Elton John%26#039;s Funeral for a Friend will be drifting in the air and as my ashes will be scattered, Ang Grupong Pendong%26#039;s Prelude To A New Morning will put me to my final rest.

Flowers are for the living, not for the dead. But, I won%26#039;t mind white roses, tulips and calla lillies.

Dress code will be %26quot;come as you are.%26quot;
Reply:funeral? i don%26#039;t need to worry about that. i will never die haha. i will be the first to discover immortality :-)
Reply:i want the people whom i%26#039;ve left to suffer. bwahaahhha!!!

i want them to wear an orange shirt with the letter P on it. =p

they should play the %26quot;ako ay pilipino%26quot; and %26quot;lupang hinirang%26quot;.

flowers? makahiya will do. =)
Reply:Flowers----Carnations

Music-------Rock 60%26#039;s/70%26#039;s

Open to all

Again you are too young to be thinking like this.
Reply:your question is making my eyes sweat profusely, what%26#039;s up your mind,kid?

anyway,in the Muslim way, our deads are bath by pouring over it with clean water 3 X ,then wrapped in clean white cloth, and buried without coffins in a dug niche under the ground. It would be a waste to cut trees or use other materials for coffins or burn fuels for the dead. What%26#039;s money for even if it%26#039;s quite expensive in the metropolis, buy expensive cellphones or have big houses but the hearts of family members are aloft from each other? the lots are lot cheaper outside the city. Even royalties are buried this way, whatever amount they have in their bank accounts.

though it%26#039;s our religious custom, anyone outside the belief can ignore it or adopt this practical means.

but to those martyrs who died for the cause of God and justice, they are buried in the clothes they wore for they will have special places in paradise. This martyrs are not composed of soldiers only, but include housewives, husbands,teachers, or any ordinary person who died fighting for justice, for their honor, for protecting the oppressed or other causes for God.

it is to be conducted as simple as possible, burial time should not be delayed as the delaying of the judgment for that soul%26#039;s reward or punishment is tantamount to committing sin by those who are left,
Reply:Pao, so morbid...

IF I have my own way I%26#039;d have daisies of all colors but with dominant pinks and purples and rock music playing along. =)
Reply:I have no specifications in mind. I just want to see lots of people in my funeral paying their last respects - kinda like their way of saying %26quot;Thank you, Inday, for being a fellow traveller in my life%26#039;s journey.%26quot;

and this one is for you, Pao ---

When I am dead, my dearest,

Sing no sad songs for me;

Plant thou no roses at my head,

Nor shady cypress tree:

Be the green grass above me

With showers and dewdrops wet;

And if thou wilt, remember,

And if thou wilt, forget.

I shall not see the shadows,

I shall not feel the rain;

I shall not hear the nightingale

Sing on, as if in pain:

And dreaming through the twilight

That doth not rise nor set,

Haply I may remember,

And haply may forget.

----a poem by Christina Rossetti
Reply:i want everyone to wear white with pink ribbon on their chest.

i want all white and red flowers, and i want jazz music to be played and a little rnb.
Reply:i want a potluck in the afternoon. then square-dancing. then play pin the tail on the dead person and have a contest on how far a living person can throw a dead person. then by 5 pm, i%26#039;d want everyone to leave me alone in peace...forever!
Reply:jehovah we don%26#039;t belive this
Reply:I wouldn%26#039;t want a morbid funeral. I%26#039;d want one that would be more like a slumber party or a post rock concert. I would still like to see the people in black though, because I myself always wear clothes of that color.

I%26#039;d like to have azaleas and roses hanging around, and servers with platters of apples instead of just bread and coffee. I want bright lights, I see no point in dim lights during %26quot;lamays%26quot;. And I%26#039;d want my family to play rock songs and some pop, basically all the CDs in my collection. None of the sad, memory lane type of songs, I personally hate them.

By the way Pao, why all the death-related questions? ;)
Reply:ok...just answered your coffin question...why the hang up on death and dying???

Ok... only happy people at mine please...celebration of life not a painful experience for all who attend
Reply:I%26#039;ll be cremated, but want a service w/my pix on a stand remembering me; yes i would like some wild dance music while the service is going and my fave flowers are carnations...No color coding though, it doesn%26#039;t matter where as long as they can accomodate enough people in a hall; i love fast and dance songs
Reply:Lot%26#039;s of friends and relatives talking about what a great guy I was while munching on potato chips and gurgling down kool-aid. Then they%26#039;d play whatever was on my iPod as the soundtrack to my life.
Reply:I just hope that I will be buried next to my mother. There may not be anybody left to bury me in my family. I actually have a burial plot next to my mother%26#039;s grave.

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What to bring to a Buddhist Funeral?

My best friend%26#039;s 27 year old brother passed away this passed Sunday. HIs funeral is on Saturday. They are Buddhist and I am Catholic. What is the appropriate gift to give to the family at a Buddhist Funeral? Like at a Catholic Funeral, you give a mass card or send flowers or make a donation in the deceased persons name. Any serious educated answers would be appreciated. Thanks.

What to bring to a Buddhist Funeral?
Call up his Buddhist Temple where the funeral will take place and ask them.

EDIT: Then call the funeral home. They are very experienced with all kinds of funerals and what would be appropriate to give. Or call any buddhist Temple and ask them.
Reply:My ex-mother-in-law is a Buddhist. All I know is this: do not send or bring cut flowers, since they suggest death. Bring or send live, potted flowers instead.
Reply:Actually it%26#039;s okay to send cut flower to some buddhists funeral, it really depends what national / ethnical background your best friend has. If the family lived in your country for long time, any gifts of your tradition is acceptable, too. You need to give us more clue to get serious answers...

And I%26#039;m so sorry for your BF%26#039;s big loss, your concerns will be a great help for your BF I%26#039;m absolutely sure..
Reply:Bringing yourself to show your sympathy is sufficient in any religion.
Reply:Give that guy a Wii, so he will be happy in his Buddhist After life.

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What flowers are used in traditional Greek weddings and funerals,please?

My daughter is researching for her Floristry diploma and needs details of other cultures use of flowers.

What flowers are used in traditional Greek weddings and funerals,please?
HELLO THERE!!! U might want to keep notes as this is a greek person answering. For weddings the most popular choices are white roses or white liles.For funerals the only flowers that are used are white carnations.Best of luck to your daughter!!
Reply:what should we use instead?it is used i guess in wedding for make it prettier and for funerals for ...?

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Why you should be careful when sending flowers (joke)?

A new business was opening and one of the owner%26#039;s friends wanted to send flowers for the occasion.

They arrived at the new business site and the owner read the card; it read %26quot;Rest in Peace.%26quot; The owner was angry and called the florist to complain.

After he had told the florist of the obvious mistake and how angry he was, the florist said. %26quot;Sir, I%26#039;m really sorry for the mistake, but rather than getting angry you should imagine this: Somewhere there is a funeral taking place today, and they have flowers with a note saying, %26#039;Congratulations on your new location%26#039;.%26quot;

Why you should be careful when sending flowers (joke)?
cool joke man..this one rocked the chart..
Reply::)))
Reply:WOW! that was great. I luved ur joke. I could shower u with stars for this one.So, here is big star for u.HA!HA!HA!HA!HA! %26amp; I%26#039;m still laughing.
Reply:LOL! I love how good your jokes sound in the morning!
Reply:Haha, funny. (:
Reply:lol

=)
Reply:so so funny...and that could really happen. thanks dr.bebop

star for you***.....as usual!! lol.
Reply:Bahahaha!
Reply:LOLOL Damn its good to have you back!
Reply:hahaha very funny! good one!
Reply:hahahaha awesome! I thought it was odd that you hadn%26#039;t posted in like a week. fair enough
Reply:hahahaha. funny. maybe i can help with your advancement. i see you started again. what happened to your other account? answer my questions. you might recieve best answer.
Reply:hahahahahahahahahahahahaha

YOU freaggin rock man!

High five!

Down low...Too slow!

jk
Reply:Nyuk nyuk nyuk! :)
Reply:I%26#039;m splitting my sides...oh help... that is

TOO funny....
Reply:oh man... i can imagine the face of the bereaved family!!
Reply:LMAO!
Reply:Haha!!
Reply:haha...hahaha i cant stop laughing haha
Reply:hahaha very good thanks
Reply:lol, that would be one funny funeral!
Reply:Wow, this is such a great joke!
Reply:teee hee hee, haha...*snort * snort*

laffin..laffin, very funny

it actualy does hapn
Reply:%26#039;Congratulations on your new location%26#039;

I think that%26#039;s inspirational - like the departed went to heaven!

Philosophical tonight, Dr. Bebop?

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New business starts with flowers????

A new business was opening and one of the owner´s friends wanted to send flowers for the occasion.

They arrived at the new business site and the owner read the

card: it said %26quot; Rest in Peace%26quot;.

The owner was angry and called the florist to complain. After

he had told the florist of the obvious mistake and how angry he was, the florist says: %26quot; Sir, I´m very sorry for the mistake, but rather than getting angry you should imagine this: somewhere there is a funeral taking place today, and they have flowers with a note saying: %26quot; Congratulations on your new location%26quot;.

New business starts with flowers????
HAHA aww thats soo cute!! i love it!!! YOU GET A STARR!! IF I COULD GIVE YOU A ZILLION I WOULD!!! thanks soooo much for sharing!!!!
Reply:ahh thats funny im still laughing
Reply:That was both funny and original! I gotta pass this one on!
Reply:good joke!
Reply:lmao!HAHAHA! STAR!
Reply:see even they make mistakes
Reply:that is funny..... at the same time though, imagine the funeral..... yikes
Reply:it was ok........
Reply:that was a good one. high five!! lol
Reply:Nice one.
Reply:Oups the florist will really get in troubles!! hihihi!!!
Reply:That made me laugh like - so hard!!!!

super nanny

Wrong flowers!!!!!!!!!!!!?

A new business was opening and one of the owner%26#039;s friends wanted to send him flowers for the occasion.

They arrived at the new business site and the owner read the card,.... %26quot;Rest in Peace.%26quot;

The owner was angry and called the florist to complain.

After he had told the florist of the obvious mistake and how angry he was, the florist replied,

%26quot;Sir, I%26#039;m really sorry for the mistake, but rather than getting angry, you should imagine this: somewhere, there is a funeral taking place today, and they have flowers with a note saying,... %26#039;Congratulations on your new location!%26#039;%26quot;

Wrong flowers!!!!!!!!!!!!?
very clever
Reply:well.lol
Reply:Good one.
Reply:Pretty good! The best of the 5 jokes I just read.
Reply:hahaha.......a star
Reply:ha ha ha
Reply:Ha ha ha.... Nice one.
Reply:Muskaan - this a really funny one - thanks for the laugh!

CJ
Reply:ha ha ha nice.............

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Flowers for the occasion.... is it funny?

A new business was opening and one of the owner%26#039;s friends wanted to send him flowers for the occasion.

They arrived at the new business site and the owner read the card,.... %26quot;Rest in Peace.%26quot;

The owner was angry and called the florist to complain.

After he had told the florist of the obvious mistake and how angry he was, the florist replied,

%26quot;Sir, I%26#039;m really sorry for the mistake, but rather than getting angry, you should imagine this: somewhere, there is a funeral taking place today, and they have flowers with a note saying,... %26#039;Congratulations on your new location!%26#039;%26quot;

Flowers for the occasion.... is it funny?
ROLMMFWAO!!!!!!!!

could you imagine the surprised look on the faces of the people at the funeral?

starred!!
Reply:LMAO. Somebody pulled the old switcharoo. Hehehe.
Reply:haha
Reply:Excellent!!! xD

* for you!!! :)
Reply:Thanks you made me smile!...:) Care if i share?
Reply:My grandfather just passed away this week. He would be rolling in laughter if he received flowers that said that! Thanks for cheering me up! Happy Holidays!
Reply:That is funny.
Reply:lol.... a thumbs up!!!!!
Reply:ahahahaha. this is way too funny. i love it.

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What to write on flower card for wife's funeral.?

...Until we meet on the Rainbow Bridge

(and, my deepest sympathies for your loss)

What to write on flower card for wife%26#039;s funeral.?
I hope it%26#039;s some sort of heart of flowers or a small bouquet of roses set in the casket, your card says, I love you(your first name)
Reply:My condolences on your loss. Just say whatever is right for you. These are words that only you can say and don%26#039;t worry about what anyone else might think.
Reply:This expression is from the husband. No one needs to know the thought behind it .... The words on the cards are only for the family to know - guests or callers at the wake or funeral should not go around reading the cards. Don%26#039;t worry about words - everything was said before the death.
Reply:Sorry for your loss. Just write from your heart, there are no fixed rules since it is a very private matter.

Sometimes just a few thoughtful words speak volumes.

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Why are flowers and wreaths given at funerals?

Flowers at a funeral is an old tradition. In the old days they did not have the technology to embalm bodies properly so they would start the domposition process quicker. With that being said, people used to bring lots of flowers to cover up the stink of the dead body. The wreath was the normal set up for the flowers %26quot;A ring of posies%26quot;. Remember the old childrens song... Ring around the rosies pockets full of posies, ashes ashes we all fall down? It literally means rings of roses, rings of posies, this is what you bring when we all die. It was a game for children at funerals to play. Hope this helps :)

Why are flowers and wreaths given at funerals?
years ago there was no such thing as embalming, so a body was washed only, laid on a table or stone slab, intime the body turns, begins to decay, and a smell omitted from it, so flowers were laid about it to mask the smell,

today the process of embalming happens, but in the 17th, 18th century, the dead were placed in lead lined coffins, this sort of mummifyed them,

then embalming occurred formaldehyde is put inside the body, all blood removed, this acts as a sheild to make the person much more pleasent to view before burial, also germ free, but eventually it would turn decay begins and the process starts, you go from flesh, to liquid, bones grim really, but thats all i can say, on the matter,
Reply:I think its to show respect for the dead.
Reply:It is a mark of respect, but there is an element of disguising odours before modern embalming techniques were introduced. The ring of roses poem was about the plague, at that time people believed that bad smells =disease and that by having a good smell disease could be avoided. As is evidenced in the last line... %26quot;Atishoo Atishoo, we all fall down!
Reply:it%26#039;s a personal choice if you want to .Some people don%26#039;t want anything or they choose to have the money spent on worth while charities. Don%26#039;t really know who ever started it off but I guess if you were to go on the net you would find something to ease your curiosity x
Reply:in day gone by when undertakers did not treat the body it would smell - the flowers covered the smell
Reply:Same reason they are given at weddings.

Pagan symbol of life eternal; both beautiful and carrying the seeds of the future.

A flower dies life is reborn.

Virginity being the flower that should die in marraige or at least when Pagans were in charge.
Reply:i really don%26#039;t know

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What to wear and bring to a funeral?

My friend%26#039;s mom died. This is my first ever funeral so I%26#039;m lost. What am I suppose to wear and what flowers are appropriate? I have a pair of black slacks and a black business suit jacket. Is that appropriate for a funeral? Also I was thinking instead of flowers I was going to make a condolence poster. In Loving Memory of.. Her mom%26#039;s picture and name along with a lot of tiny pictures from the old days. Her mom participated in a lot of our school%26#039;s activities. Then we all sign it at the funeral. Is that a good idea or should I bring flowers instead. Also I want to bring a friend along. The thing I%26#039;m dreading is my friend that I want to bring along is Jewish. He%26#039;s since become orthodox. My friend who%26#039;s mom died is Mormon and it%26#039;s at a church. Shoudl I bring my friend along? They knew each other back in high school but haven%26#039;t talked since.

What to wear and bring to a funeral?
Wear a nice outfit as if you were attending church- your outfit sounds appropriate. I would skip bringing the poster and flowers. Check back with them in a few days after things have calmed down- maybe you can offer to bring them something then, or do a favor like wash their car. It%26#039;s the thought that counts, and the gesture will be appreciated. Just be there to support them at the service.

Maybe you can make a little album for them instead of a poster, take it to them later.
Reply:Flowers, not the poster

Bring your friend...no big deal

Wear the clothes you described.
Reply:For my Mom%26#039;s funeral, they all wore dark blue in mormon town UT. They bought the flowers in the circular thingie and flowers in baskets, stuff like that and flowers to lay on top of the casket, I guess just ask the flower shop for a flower arrangement for a funeral and they can put togtehr something you can afford.
Reply:Where I live, no one ever brings flowers to a funeral. If you want to give flowers, have them sent from a florist. They will deliver them before the funeral.

I have never been to a Mormon funeral, but the ones I have been to---you wouldn%26#039;t even be able to talk to the relatives till after the funeral if they serve a little lunch or gather in another room.

Do not bring a poster. I would get a small 4x6 photo album and put the pictures in it. Wait till after the funeral to give that to her.

But you don%26#039;t HAVE to give anything! Just a sympathy card would be enough.
Reply:now a days you don%26#039;t have to be as dressed up to go to funerals, but i say go with the classics and wear a nice,black dress. the poster idea is a really great idea and i think that it will really show how much that person meant to people. Don%26#039;t be afraid to bring a friend, religion doesn%26#039;t matter in these situations. all that matters is that the family knows that people care.. good luck funerals are always tougher than you expect them to be
Reply:wear anything that fits the event, so darker colors and more modest cuts are appropriate . the slacks and suit jacket sound great. Fairly mild makeup would be good.

The poster sounds great, I dont know about doing it at the funeral though, it would be ok if you can do it quietly, maybe during the visitation , if they do that .

.

The jewish friend is OK. Perhaps call the church in advance and ask if thats going to be OK.
Reply:It is not common for one to bring a guest to a funeral however, funerals are for anyone who wants to show their respect for the deceased or the family. So, if your friend wants to attend, it is fine. He should not expect the funeral to cater to Jewish traditions.

It is a good gesture to present your memorial, but I would not take it to the funeral. Better to give it to your friend afterward.

I suggest you ware something conservative. No bright colors and very little skin showing.
Reply:Soo many questions?

Today, you can wear anything, but conservative is best.

The poster idea is really great.

Religion doesn%26#039;t matter, if they were friends is all that matters.

Funerals are for the living, not the dead.
Reply:It%26#039;s a funeral, like any funeral. A nice black pant suit is appropriate, I think.

About the poster, you should OK it with the family, but it sounds like a nice thing to do.

And there%26#039;s no problem with the Jewish friend coming, as long as he doesn%26#039;t have a problem with it.

It%26#039;s really a good place to learn about what Mormons really believe about life and death and all that. I%26#039;ve been to funerals where a eulogy can honor the dead person AND be a good testimony for the gospel. And no one is going to try to pressure you to join or anything. The family is the ones pretty much in charge of the service.
Reply:I am sorry to hear of your loss. If you think you are lost, just think about your friend.

Having been in a similar place as your friend, I can say that your reassuring presence, love and understanding are the most appreciated and important to all concerned.

To do something special to show remembrance is a very nice gesture, but I think another later and private time would be more appropriate and appreciated. Sending flowers for the service is always appropriate. You might also ask your friend what she might want. She will probably say %26#039;your presence%26#039;. I would let their customs and rituals set the pace of the moment.

If your other friend wants to come along, let him come, or not, of his own free will. You need not feel responsible in any way. I would dress nicely and conservatively and not worry about technical details too much. This is not one of those times where it is appropriate to bring attention to yourself. Try to relax and watch what happens, especially since this is something new.

Just give your friend and her family big hugs, and be there to listen when they have something to say. Also, be there to listen to your friend in the weeks and months ahead. The grieving process does not pass quickly, and there is no better way to be a friend.

Kind Regards to All
Reply:Your clothing choice sounds fine.

Flowers are the traditional item to bring to a funeral, if you aren%26#039;t able to spend around $50 dollars for an arrangement you can bring 2 roses, one for your friend that lost the parent, and one for the casket. If you are able to spend the money, you can order an arrangement over the phone at any florist with instructions to the location, time and date of the funeral.

Though the poster is a good idea, you might want to reconsider and make a photo album instead. Your friend will probably want to hold on to the photos for a long time, and a poster may get beat up over the years. A photo album will last much longer.

If you choose to give your friend the album or poster, don%26#039;t wrap it as a gift because this is not a gift giving situation. I would suggest to wait until the reception after the funeral, and hand the item to your friend. Don%26#039;t expect a thanks or words of gratitude, your friend may not even look at it for a while after you hand it to him or her.

There should be no problem with bringing along a companion to the service, it helps to have support in an uncomfortable environment. Do not feign false sorrow, and don%26#039;t be overly vocal. Also, it doesn%26#039;t matter what religion a person is when you go to a funeral, you are only there to give respect to the person that passed and to support the family and friends.
Reply:The outfit you describe is appropriate. Bringing your friend is fine as long as he is willing to participate in the services or if he is not he should stand in the back so as not to draw attention. The poster, while a nice idea should be given to the family discretely before hand so they can determine if they want to display it or not. Some people are more reserved than others.

Where I live we never bring flowers but we have them delivered to the funeral parlor by the florist so as not to have to have them fussed with while people are grieving. We usually do not bring anything with us. It only makes the mourning family have to deal with it.

The focus is to be on the deceased and those who suffer at her loss. With that in mind, go, offer your condolences. Offer to help in anyway possible and let them decide if they want to talk or just be quiet.

.

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Sunday, April 12, 2009

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Why are flowers and wreaths given at funerals?

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